I’ve just started reading a parenting book I found in my local library.
Now, normally I avoid parenting books like the plague – because they a) tend to make me feel inadequate and b) never quite seem to cover what I want to learn. This is one I’ve picked up and glanced at several times over the last few months/years before actually bringing it home.
It’s called “Raising your spirited child” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (the 2006 revised edition).
So, why did I get it out this time and why am I now blogging about it?
Well, I got it out because one of my boys fits the author’s definiton of ‘spirited’ quite well. He sometimes gets referred to as “Mr Bounce” for good reason – he is full of life, energy and volume, which is not always easy to live with (especially for his quiet, energy-conserving brother). I figured that this book might give me a few clues on how to parent him towards functioning adulthood without squashing him.
I am blogging about it because what I didn’t expect was that this book would give me insight into myself and my own (previously unrecognised by me – though probably not by my family!) spiritedness – my need to move, my need to stretch, my need for quiet time to myself, my need for nice texture, and so on – which I have endeavoured over the years to squash to try and fit social norms of acceptable grown-up behaviour (trust me when I say that it has still leaked out round the edges! I mean “belly dancing shaman” should’ve given the game away at least a bit – right?!) I’m not sure why I have done this, except that I’ve always valued blending in. Again, I don’t know why, except that it can be a form of self-protection. (More introspection may be forthcoming in future posts).
So, now I’m looking forward to reading the rest of the book so I can find out how to better parent myself as well as my son. I’ve already figured out a few useful things and I’ve still got 300 pages to go!