In my post last week, I alluded to the juggling act that is life.
So I figured today that I might let you in on some of the things I’ve learnt to keep myself vaguely balanced and (even more vaguely!) sane. I can’t promise you great wisdom and insight – I am very much a ‘work in progress’ – but I do hope these ideas give you some encouragement and spark your own inner wisdom:
To juggle well, you need to know what you’re juggling: balls? knives? flaming chainsaws? day job? family? house renovations? demanding friends or relations? hobbies?
We all have a range of things we do and a range of people we interact with. It’s good to take time periodically to review what’s going on in your life and where the tricky bits currently are (they move around!) Then take time to brainstorm how you might deal with those tricky bits and adjust your balance. There’s usually some sort of tweaking you can do to make life more manageable: sometimes you might need to cut down on some things for a while; sometimes you might need to take deep breaths and say ‘this will pass’ a few hundred times; sometimes chocolate IS the answer…
Review, revise and remove without shame or fear. Some things we are joyfully committed to for life. Other things may come and go. Our lives usually have a balance of both. Enjoy things while they last, be that for ever or for a few months. And if it is time for something to move out of your life, let it go without shame or sorrow – sometimes some grief may be involved, but don’t let that dim your enjoyment of what remains.
Also, do let go of all the stuff that came with that thing: old hobbies have a way of cluttering up our lives and houses – no one needs dried up old paints and you can always get more beads if you want them (I have to repeat this to myself regularly!) – and old love letters can burn quite nicely 😉
Make sure you feed your inner fire. You are precious and the only one of you. Even in the crazy times, do take the time to stoke your inner fire: whether that’s going on a week-long creative retreat or grabbing a few moments on Pinterest or somewhere in between. Take the moment to watch the sunrise or acknowledge the full moon. Spend some time journalling your heart out. Buy the glittery unicorn stickers and use them joyfully. Paint something a beautiful colour. Dance wildly with the wind. Jump. Play. Blow bubbles with your kids. Celebrate and enjoy your creative soul.
Sometimes some things work better than others for no obvious reason. Trust your heart and do what works for you – but do avoid harming yourself or anyone else (so… less alcohol and lots more deep breathing 😉 ). And if something is not working this time, try something else (sometimes the answer is tea, not chocolate…)
And if it all gets too much and you can’t balance it alone and your ideas are running out:
Reach out and talk to someone. Pour your heart out to a good friend (or three) for a loving reality check. Go for a long walk with your beloved. Talk to your manager about how you might prioritise your workload. Pray to the deity/s of your choice. Reach out in love and honesty to your online networks. Give yourself a hug, then pass it on to someone else who also needs it.
We are social creatures by nature. We are not meant to walk in loneliness. It takes courage to reach out, and to let others reach back to you, but the relationships and communities we can build through that process are oh so worth that first tentative stretch…
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Please share your insights and ideas in the comments.